They come in all shapes and sizes. An energy vampire can take on many forms, and sometimes go unnoticed for quite a while. These people could appear in the form of friends, family, coworkers etc. No matter their position in your life , it’s important to identify any energy draining people in your surroundings, so you can do your best to distance yourself from them as much as possible. Trust me, you will thank yourself later.
I’m coming to a point in my life where I am finally beginning to understand there is no need to feel guilty for voluntarily excusing someone from my bubble. This is mainly because I came to the realization one day that without even noticing, I had allowed myself to fall victim to an energy vampire. I had allowed their issues to become my issues. I had consumed myself with so much of their problems, stresses, and fears that I was now taking away the precious energy that I should have been using to focus on my own issues. The fact of the matter is, life is already so damn stressful naturally, so if you find yourself entrenched with someone who is adding more negative to your life then they are positive – it may be time to let them go. For the sake of your sanity, strength and happiness…let..them..GO.
Here are a few characteristics to help you identify any energy vampires lingering in your life:
-They have a “Debbie Downer” or negative mentality on everything
-Overly insecure and constantly in need of reassurance that “they matter”
-They have a “woe is me” or “the world is always against me” type of attitude
-Is constantly shooting down positive thoughts or ideas you have
-They are known to gossip – always having something negative to say about other people
-They start every conversation off with what is going wrong in their day
-If you start expressing a problem you are having, they always seem to compare it to an issue they are having, in efforts to redirect attention back to themselves
-They tend to display character traits of jealousy or manipulation
If this sounds like someone you know, try your best to distance yourself from them so that you can reclaim the focus and energy that is rightfully yours.